Tall Drink of Nerd: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

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a blogumn by Amy Robinson

Where do you live?  I’m not asking so I can inundate you with campaign mailers or just pop by and drink all your beers.  It’s come to my attention recently that geography can have a significant effect on a person.  I suppose my real question is: Where should you live?

I’ve lived in a lot of places.  I grew up in a town of 900ish folks.  We didn’t have a 7-11 or a movie theater or even a stoplight.  There is a town whistle that sounds at 7 am, Noon, 1 and 6 pm.  There are benefits to living in a small town.  Those benefits weren’t as clear to me as an out-of-place teenager. The positives came into crystal focus when my Dad got sick and the town was there to support my parents.  That was pretty awesome.

Moving is easier with friends to help.

Moving is easier with friends to help.

My whole adult life I’ve bounced around a lot of different places:  College-town Kansas, Suburban and Urban Chicago, Suburban and Urban Los Angeles and finally The Beach.  I was always more at home in urban situations that matched conditions to where I grew up.  Seems contradictory right? Well, I like to walk everywhere and would rather shop small, local businesses than load up at the Wal*Mart. Chicago was perfect for most of this, but it was frickin cold!

My life and soul are totally affected by my locale.  In the ‘burbs my colors dim.  I rarely venture forth or experiment with anything creative.  I do fit in a lot of sleeping though.  It’s the mix of convenience and opportunity that urban areas offer that lights my fire.

Santa_Monica_Beach

Here?

When we moved to Santa Monica in April, after a dozen years in the valley, it was like we moved home.  It’s not just the beautiful weather and the lower smog levels, Santa Monica is like a small community attached to a big city.  We wander the streets, eat at yummy local cafés, jog at sunrise along the shoreline and watch the sun set into the waves from our rooftop hideaway. Seen is ridiculously happy here.  Our neighbors have all been here 20 years+, which is odd in L.A.  Friends have even commented that we seem happier and completely in our element here. At last. Life in Santa Monica is stability and excitement mated together. The future has spread out at my feet and once again, I could conquer the world!  I absolutely love it here.

or here?

or here?

But after my Dad passed away, suddenly being close to family was more important than anything else.  I started to ponder moving back to be closer to the giant family he created.  I want to host Thanksgiving dinner or take my Mom to quilt shows.  Now I’m on a big ole fence again, one leg hitched on either side and being pulled between the closeness of family or geographic joy.  So before I consult a astrocartographer or fill in the quizzes on FindYourSpot.com  I thought I’d hear about your own experiences with location, location, location.


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  • ernessa

    Maybe you could compromise and just move closer. I could never live in St. Louis (too boring and close-minded) , but i suppose I could handle St. Louis. And it would be so nice to see my family more often.

  • ernessa

    Maybe you could compromise and just move closer. I could never live in St. Louis (too boring and close-minded) , but i suppose I could handle St. Louis. And it would be so nice to see my family more often.

  • ernessa

    Maybe you could compromise and just move closer. I could never live in St. Louis (too boring and close-minded) , but i suppose I could handle St. Louis. And it would be so nice to see my family more often.

  • ernessa

    Maybe you could compromise and just move closer. I could never live in St. Louis (too boring and close-minded) , but i suppose I could handle St. Louis. And it would be so nice to see my family more often.

  • Jbles

    Great write-up, A-Rob! It's so wonderful to hear that you're loving SM. While I can definitely understand your closer-to-family thoughts, I think you should stay where you feel you can conquer the world. 'Cause your family will always be there for you — albeit a flight away — but places that inspire you are hard to come by.

  • Jbles

    Great write-up, A-Rob! It's so wonderful to hear that you're loving SM. While I can definitely understand your closer-to-family thoughts, I think you should stay where you feel you can conquer the world. 'Cause your family will always be there for you — albeit a flight away — but places that inspire you are hard to come by.

  • Jbles

    Great write-up, A-Rob! It's so wonderful to hear that you're loving SM. While I can definitely understand your closer-to-family thoughts, I think you should stay where you feel you can conquer the world. 'Cause your family will always be there for you — albeit a flight away — but places that inspire you are hard to come by.

  • Jbles

    Great write-up, A-Rob! It's so wonderful to hear that you're loving SM. While I can definitely understand your closer-to-family thoughts, I think you should stay where you feel you can conquer the world. 'Cause your family will always be there for you — albeit a flight away — but places that inspire you are hard to come by.

  • AmyQotwf

    We were considering a compromise of Denver or Boulder, but that's still cold and snowy! I am going to work on getting the fam to come visit more often. They say not to make any big decisions for a year after a major event, but life is short. Maybe I'll just live on this fence, it seems pretty comfortable.

    • janicpanny

      Get in that plane & pull the eject lever over Kansas! Seriously, give yourself some time dangling on the fence. We miss you, but you need to be where your're happiest. I don't have the magic answer, but over time it may become more obvious for you. As far as my location, I'll be here as long as the fields don't move. Just wish I-70 had a 90 mph speed limit in both directions.

  • AmyQotwf

    We were considering a compromise of Denver or Boulder, but that's still cold and snowy! I am going to work on getting the fam to come visit more often. They say not to make any big decisions for a year after a major event, but life is short. Maybe I'll just live on this fence, it seems pretty comfortable.

    • janicpanny

      Get in that plane & pull the eject lever over Kansas! Seriously, give yourself some time dangling on the fence. We miss you, but you need to be where your're happiest. I don't have the magic answer, but over time it may become more obvious for you. As far as my location, I'll be here as long as the fields don't move. Just wish I-70 had a 90 mph speed limit in both directions.

  • AmyQotwf

    We were considering a compromise of Denver or Boulder, but that's still cold and snowy! I am going to work on getting the fam to come visit more often. They say not to make any big decisions for a year after a major event, but life is short. Maybe I'll just live on this fence, it seems pretty comfortable.

    • janicpanny

      Get in that plane & pull the eject lever over Kansas! Seriously, give yourself some time dangling on the fence. We miss you, but you need to be where your're happiest. I don't have the magic answer, but over time it may become more obvious for you. As far as my location, I'll be here as long as the fields don't move. Just wish I-70 had a 90 mph speed limit in both directions.

  • AmyQotwf

    We were considering a compromise of Denver or Boulder, but that's still cold and snowy! I am going to work on getting the fam to come visit more often. They say not to make any big decisions for a year after a major event, but life is short. Maybe I'll just live on this fence, it seems pretty comfortable.

    • janicpanny

      Get in that plane & pull the eject lever over Kansas! Seriously, give yourself some time dangling on the fence. We miss you, but you need to be where your're happiest. I don't have the magic answer, but over time it may become more obvious for you. As far as my location, I'll be here as long as the fields don't move. Just wish I-70 had a 90 mph speed limit in both directions.

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